Quote Of The Week

‘The most painful thing, is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.’

Earnest Hemingway. Men Without Women

It Ain’t Over…Protection

The best thing is, is when people are trying to get a rise out of you, and you don’t bite.

They know you’re in pain and they think they know Pavlov, and sometimes they will get a reaction.

But pain is also a shield, a mighty defence, a castle with a moat and a drawbridge

that closes up quickly at the merest sign of an arrow.

It Ain’t Over…Pain

I have learned, sadly, that some people love to see others in pain. It isn’t such a perverse entertainment as we think. If they can’t express their intense emotion, they have to bring it out in us. Sometimes they want love and if we can’t give them that, they will feed off our pain instead.

Others like to see pain for one-upmanship. They are all cries for approval. We are all guilty of milking pain from others. However, they are fleeting glories, hollow triumphs, and like any addiction, there will be a need for fix after fix, just to sustain the high, and we all know what happens to drug addicts.

It Ain’t Over…Forgiveness


Sometimes, we can’t stop life throwing us curve balls or dashing our hopes. Sometimes, we can’t stop the pain or the suffering, but we can control how we decide to react to all of those things. We can bring peace to our pain by letting go.

We have the power to love even when we are feeling crushed. No one can stop us blessing people or wishing them the best. No one can stop us accepting our situation and turning it into something wonderful. We can’t control what other people do, even if it impacts on our own happiness. If other people make decisions because they are hurting, we have to let them make those decisions. We have to let them go through their own life lesson, and when they come out through the other end, the only important thing, is to be there for them.